Getting the Help you Need
You are far more likely to achieve the outcome that you want from your divorce if you are able to get reliable advice and support from others. Before ways to seek advice and support are outlined, let’s distinguish what is meant by advice and by support. When the word advice is used, it’s referring to professional advice given by competent practitioners that you trust. When the word support is used, it’s referring to the emotional and personal support that you can receive from family and friends. As noted above, separating the two is critical.
Support from Friends and Family
It is critical to seek out as much support as you can from your friends and family. This is your time of need, in a way that is not too different from if you had a serious illness. Do not hesitate to ask your friends and family to give you the support you need, in terms of listening, with empathy, assisting with childcare, giving you fun breaks, helping out with household chores that you are too overwhelmed to complete or simply to assure you that you are going to be okay. It is important to assure them that you need this more than advice and that they do not necessarily need to take sides in providing the support. There are many instances in which cherished friends and family members have provided valuable support to both spouses in a divorce.
Advice from professionals
There are many different types of professionals who can help you depending on the process that you choose. In either case, you should be diligent in researching and selecting professionals who have the experience and training to help you and who you trust to work in your interests. Professional help is expensive and the choices should not be taken lightly. Competent professionals that you trust will be worth their weight in gold during difficult times. On the other hand, if you do not trust their judgment or advice, they will be of very little value to you.